that little difference

I'll throw a theory out there about the little differences between women and men concerning communication:

women like to put a little stamp on things, giving it a name. ("this is a one-night stand. this is my steady lay. this is my bf. this is my future ex-husband") women like to hear a status-message on the theme every so often ("I like you. I love you. I need you."), something in the lines of reaffirmation on what's happening.

men, on the other hand, like to let actions speak for themselves. (bring flowers, change the tires on your car, call you when they're drunk)

and then, there's that situation when you're communicating that the shit has hit the fan. that's the moment when women will let actions speak for themselves and men will start to talk lots:

when it's over, a woman will go change her hairdo (cut off the metre-long hair down to 2 inches, change the haircolour from blonde to black), and if you've lived with her, you'll find your shit outside of the front door in suitcases or garbage bags. call it redecorating, you're just not part of the furniture anymore.

a man would much rather chew off his left arm than actually saying "I don't wanna be with you". he'll talk at length about his plans (they just won't include you, woman), he'll talk about how his job is keeping him so busy (while in fact he's playing poker or with himself), he'll blabber about god-and-the-world but will evade answering straight. men actually think that hurts the woman less.

this is one of the many moments when I think the ladies and gentlemen of the rainbow persuasion have it much easier.